This book looks at President Trump, misogyny and what happened to Hillary.

Negative concept: Misogyny and Projective Identification

Projective Identification causes misogyny: Misogynists control


  • If you are being discriminated against, try to figure out if misogyny is part of the problem.  You may be able to  find a solution.  If not, you can get help. At work, you can usually go to your Human Resources office. If you feel discriminated against and can't solve the issue within your organization, you can contact the Equal Employment Office for more information. Your local Bar association can help you find an attorney if your situation escalates and you believe you need further assistance.

Projective Identification can force people to submit to others


  • Refusing  to let another person have his or her own thought  is a form of  projective identification. By projecting one's unwanted thoughts onto someone else, while accusing the other of having the thoughts, the innocent person feels stunned and confused. The projector also monitors the other person to control him or her to make sure he or she still has the thoughts. In this way, it is as if there is only one mind between two people instead of two minds since what the projector thinks is what matters.

Projective Identification causes abuse: Abusers control


  • In cases of physical abuse, perpetrators often blame victims for something they themselves think or do. Instead of taking responsibility for their own actions, they accuse the other person of bad behavior they often claim must be cor-rected. 
  • In the case of domestic violence, battered women often come to believe what they've been told by violent men such as, "No one will ever want someone like you," "You're lucky I like you,"  or "You're a pathetic person, no wonder you disgust me."




A very positive concept: Mentalization

Mentalization is a two-minds process


  • When people mentalize, they respect the thoughts and ideas of the other person which leads to positive relationships.

Mentalization can involve more than two people


  • When groups of people collaborate,  each person  is able to have a different opinion without being excluded.

Mentalization should be part of the culture


  • Corporate engagement is a result of mentalization. It is most effective when  everyone in a company is involved.

Mentalization leads to Corporate Engagement


  • In corporate settings, authentic  engagement is crucial if job satisfaction and employee retention are priorities. 

Corporate engagement leads to job satisfaction


  • Mentalizing can led to a change in a company's corporate culture. This shift can increase employee satisfaction and eventually productivity.

Mentalization implies understanding


  • Cultural change can come about when mentalization leads to engagement in the corporate world and in any other setting.