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Why We Need This Book Now

 From cracks in our democratic process, social inequities, to climate change, we need to act now to fix these issues. Ignoring them will make it hard avoid the "point of no return." We must alter how we communicate if we are to have any hope for a bright future.


THE SOLUTIONS: How We Can Change America

How we can heal the wounds that emerged in the Trump era

How we can heal the wounds that emerged in the Trump era

How we can heal the wounds that emerged in the Trump era

Why we don't talk to each other 

Informed debate feels like a relic from the past—but it needn’t be. In this book I explore why it is important to engage in thoughtful debate as well as ways to structure meaningful discussions without the exercise turning into a hateful and degrading experience. As Dr. Louis Cozolino says, and I agree, we all have an opportunity to edit our lives. 

Healing ourselves through mental resilience

How we can heal the wounds that emerged in the Trump era

How we can heal the wounds that emerged in the Trump era

Building Mental Resilience 

We can heal ourselves and work towards saving our planet by developing and then strengthening our mental resilience. This requires flexibility and the ability to bounce back. In other words, we need to be able to deal with people who have different opinions than ours even if they have criticized us in the past.  

Lessons we can learn from South Africa and Rwanda

How we can heal the wounds that emerged in the Trump era

Lessons we can learn from South Africa and Rwanda

Though challenging, healing can work  

It has been done in situations fraught  with far more animosity and hatred.  This process took place after the Rwandan genocide when residual aggression was transformed by leaders who helped people deal with their pain and rage. This required the aggressors to acknowledge their wrongdoing by owning up to what they did.   

Respectful listening in an atmosphere of respect

Looking towards the future: Hateful tweets must stop

Lessons we can learn from South Africa and Rwanda

Changing the game by mentalizing

We have become pros when it comes to talking at each other instead of talking with each other. Calm, respectful, and informed debate feels like a relic from the past. But, this needn’t be the case. It can be difficult talking to people who adhere to extreme and different beliefs, but we can re-train ourselves to listen and engage in thoughtful exchanges.  

Helping our children by telling them the truth

Looking towards the future: Hateful tweets must stop

Looking towards the future: Hateful tweets must stop

Children hear Trump's lies

Trump has set poor examples for children: how to succeed by lying, deceiving others, and bullying your way to the top. Our children have witnessed Trump’s use of projective identification by seeing what occurred with the migrant children in cages. His distain for them is an attempt to rid himself of his heritage.  

Looking towards the future: Hateful tweets must stop

Looking towards the future: Hateful tweets must stop

Looking towards the future: Hateful tweets must stop

Moving past the current moral morass

The path ahead is hardly smooth. We’ve got a lot of work to do if we want to become better citizens and participants in democracy. We must be willing to look beyond groups of like-minded people and listen to others. We need a leader who embodies the traits that we want to emulate. In this book, I define these important characteristics. 

THE TRUMP PRESIDENCY: The Damage That Has Been Done

The mechanism is called projective identification

The receiver of a projected thought is usually confused

The receiver of a projected thought is usually confused

Who uses this defense and why?

This defense mechanism is used by people who demand to be in control and who have to be right all of the time. Deep down, they are insecure and don't like certain aspects of themselves. Instead of dealing with these issues, they project them onto others and then accuse them of embodying these disagreeable qualities.  

The receiver of a projected thought is usually confused

The receiver of a projected thought is usually confused

The receiver of a projected thought is usually confused

What happens to the receiver?

Being the recipient of projective identification can ravage one’s sense of self. Here's an example: When person A unloads an unwanted quality, feeling or thought onto person B, that person doesn't understand what has happened. Person B often feels stunned. Projective identification is like a silent invader that you don't notice until it's almost too late.  

Trump's base: Why did they follow him?

The receiver of a projected thought is usually confused

Why Donald Trump appears to dislike immigrants

Donald Trump's followers

Trump cultivated a following among conservative, rural, working and middle class, white Americans in large part due to his charisma. By casting himself as an outsider, he added heft to his position by creating the narrative that his ideas were anti-establishment and developed with the common man in mind. 

Why Donald Trump appears to dislike immigrants

Trump and the COVID 19 crisis: Why he doesn't care

Why Donald Trump appears to dislike immigrants

Donald Trump's dislike of immigrants

Why he dislikes immigrants may lie in his own upbringing or in the backstory concerning his mother, Mary Ann Macleod. She was an immigrant who came to the United States in 1930 at the age of eighteen to escape from her impoverished life. Mary Ann’s story provides an interesting prism through which to view Trump's behavior. 

Trump and the COVID 19 crisis: Why he doesn't care

Trump and the COVID 19 crisis: Why he doesn't care

Trump and the COVID 19 crisis: Why he doesn't care

He will not accept responsibility

On February 2, 2020 when asked how the federal government was preparing for the impending arrival of the coronavirus, Donald Trump dismissed the possibility of an epidemic and failed to take responsibility for any part of it.  Trump’s management of the COVID-19 pandemic is rooted in unconscious projective identification. 

Black lives matter: Why Trump doesn't seem to care

Trump and the COVID 19 crisis: Why he doesn't care

Trump and the COVID 19 crisis: Why he doesn't care

Trump attacks when challenged 

The insults against people of color standing up for their rights has only increased as the national movement for Black Lives Matter (BLM) has gained strength. As the visibility of this group grows, so do Trump’s scattershot attacks because he projects his insecurity and things he doesn't like about himself onto others. 

The jobless rate: It's worse than it has ever been

The planet: How Trump is making climate change worse

The planet: How Trump is making climate change worse

The worsening jobless rate According to the Pew Research Center, the jobless rates increased more in two months this year than they did during the last recession which lasted from 2007 to 2009. This is due to Trump's refusal to take a strong leadership role in the pandemic saying instead that it will just "go away." It didn't, and now over 237,000 Americans are dead.  

The planet: How Trump is making climate change worse

The planet: How Trump is making climate change worse

The planet: How Trump is making climate change worse

Mental illness plus global warming

Research indicates there is an increase in the rate of mental health problems such as depression, anxiety, PTSD, and suicide due to global warming. While Trump isn’t responsible for climate change, his rejection of the Paris climate treaty and other rollbacks has not instilled much hope in Americans who know that climate change is real.  

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